Many college students encounter problems that are not easily resolvable, and sometimes the usual ways of handling these problems may not be working effectively. Students sometimes find that talking to friends or relatives about their concerns is not very helpful as these individuals are either unsure what to say, or are not objective or patient enough to understand and join with them through the process.
Counseling is a chance to talk over what you see as the main sources of frustration with a trained and objective person. He or she can help you learn new ways of looking at situations so that you will feel more capable of identifying and changing patterns that are keeping you caught in the current struggles.
A counseling experience will be different for each person, but some of the common components of the process include:
• A specific time and nonjudgmental setting to look at your own situation and begin changing patterns and beliefs that aren’t working for you.
• Understanding that “success” and “achieving” are pointless if one doesn’t take care of herself/himself in a way that allows for fulfillment and contentment.
• Learning how to manage family, peer, and intimate relationships effectively so that they are not contributing to the stress.
• Learning how to utilize friends’ and family’s support in a role that is comfortable and clear for them, and does not extend them beyond their patience or expertise.
• Moving individuals away from simply hoping for the best outcome, to a more strategic way of living to offer the best chance for consistent contentment about life and one’s situation.
• Counseling also involves: understanding how the mind works, setting boundaries, gaining insight into how one’s own beliefs originated, identification and change of perceptions that may be causing distress.